Amazing Boy With Autism’s Journey From Fear to Swim Success
This is Shane’s Story of Swim Success. A young man with Autism and his journey from fear and anxiety to fun and independence.
Wouldn’t it be great to have a crystal ball and see what is possible ten years from now when you work with a two-year-old that is petrified of the water? Those early years with a child that has difficulty communicating, regulating sensory input, and adjusting to unpredictable group settings are so hard. As a new parent, this can be so overwhelming for both you and your child. But, as we share Shane’s journey, you will see how persistence, patience, love, support, and trust can make possible what seems impossible!
It Takes a Village…
Shane started in our Mom and Me swim class when he was only 2 years old. His Mom or Dad would take him in the pool, and he would cling to them. Any movement of his body that involved him floating on his belly or back, sent him into fight or flight. The feeling of buoyancy was scary to him, and he didn’t know how to control his body. We knew we needed to help him overcome his fear and anxiety during his swim lessons with us, and that he needed support from specially trained instructors using our time-tested and proven Swim Whisperers® method for adaptive swim.
The beauty of the Mom and Me class is that the parents have the support of each other, without any demands or expectations, and each child does their best without judgment or embarrassment. So many times, parents of young children on the spectrum feel judged or embarrassed in group classes when their child has a hard time. Our Mom and Me class called “Jumpstart Angelfish” is a place of acceptance and belonging and the parents feel that as soon as they enter the pool. At Swim Angelfish, it is important to us that everyone feels welcome and part of our family.
We helped Shane get comfortable by using our toolbox of techniques and slowly exposed him to different equipment in the water to help him feel safe. It was wonderful that he could do this with the comfort and support of his mom. The parents love feeling empowered to learn what to do with their child in the water. It gives them joy and a sense of accomplishment to do something that is therapeutic and an important life skill.
Following the Mom and Me class, Shane started private adaptive swim lessons with Swim Angelfish. We helped him overcome roadblock after roadblock through the years. We even helped him transition to different instructors, pools, and eventually a small group with some of his peers. The motivation to do lessons with his peers took Shane’s independence to a new level. Working in a swim group provides opportunities for social interaction and friendships. He could not do some of the things they did, but he was motivated to try.
Having a supportive family that would reinforce what he was working on when they took family vacations and when he went to summer camp was a huge help.
Preparing for the Special Olympics
One day, during a swimming lesson, I asked Shane which sports he was motivated by and whether he would ever want to swim in a big race, like the Olympics. His mom showed him videos, and he agreed to try the Special Olympics.
Change is hard for Shane, and although he was doing so well learning all of his strokes in practice when he decides he doesn’t want to do something, it can be challenging. We were apprehensive about the large crowd, noise, waiting in line, and all of the things the Special Olympics would entail.
We talked with his mom about what would be the best way to prepare him for this. She talked to him about the details of the day, even brought him to the pool where the Special Olympics would be, and asked if he could get in and swim. This was huge for him. He got to feel the temperature, see the depth of the pool, experience the acoustics and prepare himself so that he knew what to expect on game day!
From An Anxious Swimmer to a Silver Medalist!
Shane was a huge success.
Not only did he participate in the games and handle all the unexpected waiting, registering, and noises as the start gun went off, he won a silver medal. The excitement and pride on his face when he received his medal is something I will never forget, as I remember his journey from the beginning.
Shane is so motivated and is working hard in his lessons – because this year, he’s going for gold!